Procrastination: Fear of Reality

Many of you entered the New Year with big dreams and aspirations.  While most of us are ready to launch into our #goals with a gusto discovered in the celebration of NYE parties, we ignore the reality of our procrastination and yester-year’s unaccomplished goals.

We procrastinate for many reasons. One of those being our fear of what our resolutions reveal about our reality.

Our resolutions may be disappointing. Resolutions are usually meant to make us feel better about a certain aspect of our lives.  But there are certain resolutions that don’t feel good once they are accomplished – or along the journey – and we call it quits before we even begin.  Even if a healthier lifestyle is our goal, we remember what it feels like to exercise every day or maintain the weight loss.  We may even convince ourselves that the dream vacation isn’t worth saving for because we remember that horrible trip to Vancouver in 2016.  Even the most noble ventures like mentoring turns out to be filled with more difficulty than the intrinsic pleasure that was anticipated.  When the new year rolls around and we see the work that has to be put in, we remember the disappointment from past resolutions gone bad and we convince ourselves we will similarly be disappointed…and stall. 

Our resolutions may be bigger than our ability.  In the beginning our goals are visions, often shaped by big dreams and aspirations.  Dare I say our resolutions are lofty and we may have too many of them.  In other words, in the New Year our excitement leads us to craft resolutions that do not reflect an accurate representation of our ability or time.  Intimidated, we procrastinate. by doing this we preserve the delusion that we could “one day” achieve the dream when the next New Year approaches, without having to reflect and reevaluate our goals. Let’s face it, it’s less scary to blame lack of time than our lack of potential.

The progress toward our resolutions may bring us shame.  We are a bunch of overshares.  We may overshare intentionally because we are excited about our new adventures.  We may over share unintentionally as we answer harmless questions from people interested in our progress.  It all comes down to the fact that people notice what are doing and there is an inherent fear that we will be a disappointment to someone else because our plans didn’t turn out the way peering eyes expected it to.